Chasing Angels and Beating Infertility through IVF

By  | Sassy Wifestyle

Sometimes all we need is silence to hear our thoughts. There are times we need to drown ourselves in loud music to drown our sorrows. Then there are moments where we feel like it is you against all the odds. I feel like I am going through a battle that no one can see or hear. I know I am not alone … that there are people out there who are facing the same struggles, if not much more than what I am going through.

But that’s the thing … that’s their story. Not mine. My own struggles are hard enough. Not to be religious or anything, as not everyone believes the same stuff – but my mama always reminds me that God does not give us any trials we can’t handle.

Bless her. She is such a beautiful woman … inside and out. I wish I have at least half of her strength.

ivf Sometimes I ask …

“Are you sure I can do this?”

“Why me?”

“Am I such a bad person to deserve this?”

I would cry my tears away while I’m in the shower because I am tired of looking weak. I am frustrated with things that I don’t know how to resolve. So I’ve decided I am documenting our journey to “chasing angels” … that maybe, somehow, somewhere an angel will find its way to our arms. I am totally new to the world of IVF but I will try my best if not my hardest to do everything to make our family complete.

We tried looking into IVF and found out that Tricare does not cover the treatment. So my husband and I ventured on the road of uncertainty … doing things on our own and out of pocket. We found out about Walter Reed in DC and figured we can travel from NJ to DC if we have to. We started doing the preliminary stuff last year (2015) then he had to deploy to Kuwait. All I could exclaim to myself was “really?” … it felt like a cruel joke. We finally started and then this. Everything had to be put on hold.

Fast forward to his return. Finally! We started looking into the steps where we left off. On September 17th I stumbled across the “Helping Heroes Build Families” Program through “The Spouses and Members of JBMDL” facebook group. I swear I wished I have known about this sooner.

RMANJ introduced the Helping Heroes Build Families program to help address the financial difficulties our military heroes and their spouses face when trying to have a family. Since its introduction, RMANJ has provided over $150,000 dollars worth of free services to New Jersey-based active duty military personnel. Helping Heroes Build Families provides ONE complimentary in vitro fertilization (IVF) cycle to qualifying New Jersey-based service members and their spouses. Est 2012 [read more here]

While the medication, anesthesia and complementary care (massage therapy, acupuncture, etc.) are not included – it is still a huge help! It is free for the first time … so we are keeping our fingers crossed that everything will work out on our first try.

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  1. lisa

    February 27, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    Good luck on your journey! I have many friends that succeeded with IVF. I can’t imagine how hard it is.

  2. Jeanette

    February 27, 2017 at 11:23 pm

    I hope that it all works out for you! We went through IVF treatments and its no fun, but we now have a wonderful son that I LOVE so much!

  3. Stacie @ Divine Lifestyle

    February 27, 2017 at 11:41 pm

    I’ve got my fingers, toes, arms, and legs crossed that you get pregnant the first time! I’m so hopeful for you and your husband. <3

  4. Destany

    February 28, 2017 at 1:01 am

    Fingers crossed for you! I have friends who have struggled with infertility. It’s never easy to deal with. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. I wish you the best 🙂

  5. Ann Bacciaglia

    February 28, 2017 at 1:10 am

    I think it is sad that IVF is not covered by most companies. I am so happy you have found Helping Heroes Build Families. I will keep you in my prayers that it works for you.

  6. Ann Bacciaglia

    February 28, 2017 at 1:10 am

    I think it is sad that IVF is not covered by most companies. I am so happy you have found Helping Heroes Build Families. I will keep you in my prayers that it works for you.

  7. Melissa Dixon

    February 28, 2017 at 2:35 pm

    I wish you the best of luck on your journey and firmly believe it will all work out for the best. I hope you have an easier time from here on out, thanks for sharing your story.

  8. My Teen Guide

    February 28, 2017 at 2:51 pm

    gooodluck to you! my bff also succeeded in IVF!

  9. Bernadette Siazon

    February 28, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    Wishing you luck in your IVF journey. It’s great that you found a strong support group.

  10. Stephanie Jeannot

    February 28, 2017 at 4:38 pm

    You are so blessed and amazing. Never forget the wonderful person God created in you. Thanks for sharing your story.

  11. Censie Sawyer

    February 28, 2017 at 4:56 pm

    Good luck! What a special journey to be taking. Sending great thoughts and prayers your way!

  12. Karlyn Cruz

    February 28, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    great story! goodluck to you! i hope it went well for you!

  13. uprunforlife

    February 28, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    I wish you luck on your journey to have a baby. I can’t imagine going through your shoes even though I had a small glimpse of it when trying to have my youngest. It took a bit longer than I expected considering I got pregnant pretty easily with my older kids.

  14. Kathy

    February 28, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    I’m hoping for the best for you! Glad that there are some other options out there. I hope it all works out for you in the end.

  15. Kendall Rayburn

    February 28, 2017 at 9:34 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story – I’m thinking of you and your family! Sending good vibes your way!

  16. Debra Schroeder

    March 1, 2017 at 1:17 am

    Good luck with IVF, hope you get pregnant on your first go. 🙂

  17. Heather

    March 1, 2017 at 5:13 am

    I know this is such a hard time and you wonder when will it happen. My husband and I tried for a year and a half and I finally said let’s just take a break and enjoy our lives for one month without standing on my head, charting and taking my body temperature every morning. It finally happened when I stopped stressing over it. Now I don’t know your situation, if you’ve moved on to IFV it’s not as simple as it was for me, and certainly not simple when your husband is over seas, I think the point I’m trying to make is learning to trust in God’s timing is hard, but necessary. That’s the hardest part in anything we ask God for and knowing he’ll answer those prayers when the time is right. The waiting is the hardest part.

  18. Tiffany Hathorn

    March 2, 2017 at 3:41 am

    I agree that even if you know that other people are struggling, it doesn’t take away from YOUR experience. Much luck to you on this journey! I hope for the best for yall.

  19. Nancy at Whispered Inspirations

    March 2, 2017 at 4:32 am

    Good luck! I hope you will hear good news soon. <3

  20. Lynndee

    March 2, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    One of my friends had success with IVF and she said, it was hard but it was all worth it. I am hoping that you will have success with it too.

  21. Eloise

    March 2, 2017 at 9:37 pm

    My brother is in the Military and he and his wife face the same problem… I’ll have to share this post with them… I wish you luck/success on your journey… take care : )

  22. Eileen

    March 3, 2017 at 12:14 am

    Good luck on your journey! I know it must be tough to go through this. Looking forward to seeing what happens and thanks for sharing.

  23. CourtneyLynne

    March 3, 2017 at 3:29 am

    Wishing you the best in this journey girlie!!! I have a bestie that did IVF and ended up with twins!!!!!

  24. Jessica Simms

    March 4, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    That’s great! I’m so happy you are receiving help and the journey will be one to remember when you finally see those beautiful eyes looking back up at you in the delivery room.

  25. adriana

    March 5, 2017 at 3:50 am

    I’m sending prayers your way! I can only imagine how tough it is, but you have a great outlook and I hope everything works in your favor!

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